Nationwide — Jay Manuel and Pamela Chavez are facing an emotional challenge as they try to start a family. The couple, who both have brittle bone disease, have learned that Pamela may not be able to carry their baby because pregnancy could put her health at serious risk.
Jay and Pamela, who were both born with osteogenesis imperfecta type 3, recently met with a fertility doctor to discuss their chances of having a child. During the consultation, the doctor explained that Pamela’s condition could make pregnancy extremely dangerous.
Before hearing the doctor’s recommendation, Pamela said she and Jay were not interested in using a surrogate. However, the doctor told them that a surrogate would likely be the safest option because carrying a baby could place too much strain on Pamela’s body.
The doctor explained that as the baby grows, the pregnancy could affect Pamela’s ability to breathe and put stress on her heart and other parts of her body. He also warned that the risks could affect the baby’s growth and development.
According to People, Pamela later opened up about how difficult it was to hear that she may not get to experience pregnancy herself. She said she knows her body is “extra special,” but she still hoped to carry her child and form a bond before birth.
She shared, “It would be nice to immediately start bonding with my unborn child and even still read to them even though I’m pregnant and talk to them before they are born.” She added how it was painful to think that someone else might carry her baby instead.
“And yeah you can bond with a child once they’re born, but I don’t know. I think pregnancy is very magical… that a lot of people take for granted,” Pamela said. “You’re literally sacrificing your whole life and body to bring life into this world. And not being able to experience that really sucks.”
Despite the emotional setback, Jay and Pamela continue looking for ways to grow their family. Their journey toward parenthood will be featured on their show, “Jay & Pamela,” as they navigate the challenges of living with osteogenesis imperfecta while pursuing their dream of having a child